Surviving the Snapping Point

Good Monday Friends,

James 1:19-20 “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.”

I know you may be thinking, “Wow Chuck, what a random verse to begin this blog with. Has somebody made you mad?” My simple response is that this is real life and there are many opportunities for each of us to be angry… every day. These are just two verses I read this morning that really jumped off the page and I thought to expound upon the topic for my first anger management blog. Enjoy!

So… when was the last time it happened to you? Think back to the last time soooo much pressure built up inside and you did everything you knew to do to keep turning the other cheek… and then it happened… you SNAPPED with a capital S! Be honest here… you are amongst friends! Let’s face it everyone… we’ve all been pretty peeved a time or two in our lives haven’t we? The first step to recovery is to admit you have a problem.

In todays stressed out society, there is so much SNAPPING going on! So many people seem to be living right at the edge of their SNAPPING point. And SNAPPING never helps a situation does it? It only makes things far worse.

James 1:19-20 “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.”

EVERYONE should be QUICK to listen… SLOW to speak… and SLOW to become angry. Sounds easy enough, doesn’t it? Just three simple steps to a SNAP free life!

Listening is a vital part of conflict resolution… and when we lose our ability to listen, we disable out our ability to gather the vital information we need to make proper decisions. One of the first signs of anger is that we are no longer able to hear anything but the fire raging in our mind.

Once we stop listening, we simultaneously speak… louder and faster… and faster and louder… not realizing that we are heading for a certain disaster. A mouth seized by an angry spirit is one of the most dangerous weapons known to man.

So then according to these verses, listening MORE and speaking LESS go along with being SLOW TO ANGER. If we can open our ears and adequately direct our words, tonality, and body language… if we can do this and learn to do it well… we will keep God in control of our most stressful circumstances.

Self control is listed in the Bible as one of the nine FRUITS of the Holy Spirit… it is a promise for every follower of Jesus. Let us pray and believe to have this promise and let us aim to become the BEST listeners, the MOST CAREFUL speakers… and the slowest people on the face of the earth to SNAP.

I know this sounds much easier than it actually is. All spiritual victory begins with a new revelation, a new commitment to change, and a PRAYER OF FAITH! So, just reading this blog takes you a great big step closer to a far more peaceful future. You can do it… you can overcome… because with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE!

Have an amazing day everyone! We love you guys and we just finished praying for you all!

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8 thoughts on “Surviving the Snapping Point

  1. This is especially easy to do when dealing with unbelievers who are hostile to the faith. Yet getting into a snapping match rarely yields fruit. We are instructed to "in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame. For it is better to suffer for doing good, if that should be God's will, than for doing evil." (1 Peter 3:15-17). Once we understand that the wisdom, knowledge, and faith that we do have come from God and not of ourselves, it makes that job much easier. We can then approach with a "humble boldness".

  2. Glorious morning to you all. How could anyone be angry with a morning with God so close at hand in such beauty as this. I friend once told me "anything that angers you, controls you".

    I got angry with someone last night because of the way she treats one of my daughters and as I listened to her go on and on and on and on about how she felt about my daughter, my anger grew more and more. I was ready to tear her to shreds but I thought if I give her anymore control then she would destroy my daughter and the devil would have a strong hold in all of us. I prayed for God to guide my words. Tears rolling down my face, teeth gritted to the point they still hurt this morning, I explained to her that if she kept living in yesterday she would never allow my daughter to grow and become what God had made her to be. If she kept bringing up what had been said and done a week ago, she would never see the improvements and changes my daughter had made to make the relationship better. I told her, when an apology was made from the heart with sincerity, the best thing to do is say thank you and not bring up the apology that was made a week ago when they were in a heated argument. By the Grace of God she understood what I was trying to show her. And the control was broken. The air cleared and became much less hostile. The anger was suppressed and the love of God came forth. Had I not prayed before I had spoken, man, my redneck side of me, the mama bear, would have come out and things would have come out and yuck. What a mess I would have made.

    All the glory goes to God.

  3. Good word! It's just not worth it to throw those rocks in the pond and get that ripple affect. In the grand sceme of things, it just doesn't matter. People only act as they feel they need to be. They might be right or wrong but they are just trying to exist the best way they know how. Maybe they should learn a new way "to be". I know I'm working on that….Have a great day!

  4. Thanks Chuck – and Lisa, too for sharing your most recent story! This blog has been a dose of what I have needed recently!

  5. I think I know where this came from, Pastor. It's so good to see you still teaching from your own personal experiences. Your transparency is enjoyed by many. We must all remember that, even in anger, we are instructed to sin NOT. Thank God for His Grace!

  6. Ouch you touched a button with me. I SNAPPED at a student on Monday and kicked him out of my classroom. He cried. He rarely cries. It broke my heart and after thinking about it I had to repent and ask him to forgive me. It didn't matter that he was mocking me and taking my lesson to the extreme. It mattered that I broke his spirit and love of learning. I was glad that he bounced back so easily and forgave me.

    Yesterday he couldn't stop hugging on me. He is adorable. Some people would be annoyed by his antics, but yesterday I just embraced it. I plan on embracing it again today!!!!