Loving Jerky People

Happy Saturday!

Nearly rumbled with a few jerks yesterday… almost lost my smile… immersed myself in good conversations with beautiful people and OVERCAME the jerks. Some people! I mean we’ve all been a little jerky at times, but some people have no manners.

When this happens, I have to remind myself that jerks are not born, they are created. Most of the time, people get WEIRD and ARROGANT because of some outside INFLUENTIAL FORCE… and they really can’t help it.

Everyone needs to be RESCUED from something. I was a real jerky guy at 19 when I first met Christ… still more jerky than I’d like to be after 18 years of Christian living. So glad God didn’t interview me before LOVING me. So happy he loves me even when my enemies ask him not to. lol

Loving some people is almost IMPOSSIBLE. Jesus said…

“Love your enemies (the jerky people in our lives)! Do good to them (yeah right). Lend to them without expecting to be repaid (OUCH). Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as children of the Most High (thats the goal), for he is kind to those who are unthankful and wicked (no wonder he is GOD). You must be compassionate (able to see life through others eyes), just as your Father is compassionate.” Luke 6:35-36

God is kind to people who are not kind to him. This is because he is COMPASSIONATE!

Compassion: sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it.

This morning, I am deeply convicted about the feeling of RETALIATION I experienced during this jerky encounter. I got irritated way more than I should have. Instead of praying, I started thinking about what I should say in my comeback speech… and I started to magnify the obvious flaws of my attackers.

This morning, my PEACE returns as I remember my own obvious flaws and my own need for Gods mercy… and all the things I’ve done with my life to place others in misery from time to time. I spent so much of my prayer time asking God to make me a far more loving person… and far less a source of trial for others. I want to BLESS and not curse… and I just like you, I need God’s help to do so.

As I close out this message… I’d like to encourage YOU to seek Gods heart for the antagonistic people in your social circle. Seek for a sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with A DESIRE TO ALLEVIATE IT. Look beyond the PAINFUL SYMPTOMS affecting your own life, and SEE the real need… then pray for transformation like there is no tomorrow.

I hope that todays short message adds tremendous value to your amazing lives! Here’s a song to help…


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6 thoughts on “Loving Jerky People

  1. You know Pastor, I don't know what conversations rattled your cage but I know it WASN'T the ones around the fire eating ice cream!!

    I love how you are so honest with us all! You are REAL! As REAL as REAL gets!! You and Emily and Coree and Heaven are a fantastic family and we are so blessed to be of it!!

    What I have learned about people who say not so kind things at times is this:
    If their negativity is reaching their mouth (in the form of words) then we need to pray extra hard for them because imagine the world they must live in daily. If they live in a pit, they will try hard to pull others down with them so they are not alone.

    If someone feels they need to attack me in words of untruth then its not about me, it's really about something in them that they see or feel that was triggered that warrants a change. They attack the very thing they envy. I have learned people are very critical in nature. Some more than others and our words are painful at times. Sometimes not meaning to be but it happens.

    We have to set our minds and hearts to give life with our words like you said. Those that don't do that, well I try to look at it as "they just don't know, what they don't know". I pray for them. I pray for me too, just like you said.

    I didn't do anything on my own and so I continue to seek God for his grace and mercy and forgiveness and wisdom and guidance for these situations and every other step I take too.

    Thanks for sharing your valuable life teachings !!
    love you guys

  2. Pastor Chuck,

    I can relate to your blog. Somedays I wonder why God keeps giving me jerky people to deal with. Then I realize that it isn't about me and that person, it's between me and God. I still have some learning to do, great! You know everytime I think I'm there…there moves!

    When I encounter someone that rattles my cage, Vickie reminds me that I have a choice, I don't have to allow them to rattle my cage. If I allow people to control me, I'm always rattled!!! My Yoda also reminds me to pray for that person, then I can't be angry. She also reminded me of something else yesterday…I took something as an insult from someone and wondered why they would say such a thing. Vickie reminded me that I can't hold something against that person when they just don't know, they can't help it.

    Changing the way I look at situations really does calm me down.

    Another thing I've been taught is to use Mother Teresa's prayer…

    Prayer of St. Francis

    Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.

    Where there is hatred, let me sow love;

    Where there is doubt, faith;

    Where there is despair, hope;

    Where there is darkness, light;

    And where there is sadness, joy.

    O'Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;

    To be understood as to understand;

    To be loved as to love.

    For it is in giving that we receive,

    It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,

    And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. -St. Francis of Assisi

    There is a cute story that goes with this prayer advice. Vik gave this rock to someone that needed it, it had the first line of the prayer. Months later, this person sent me the large rock and said to carry it in my purse until I understand what I am supposed to do with it, ha! So… the moral is that I can use it or use it, use the prayer or use it to hit someone! So when I need the prayer, I always think of this and the humor usually snaps me out of the anger.

    I also try to remember that God loves that jerky person just as much as he loves me, boy that's hard!

    And last but not least…it's always better to be kind than right. When I take my ego out of it and give up the right to be right, (even say, "you might be right"), then I know I'm there…until there moves again, ha!

    See you tomorrow,


  3. Nice you gals!! I love reading EVERYTHING Mother Theresa said while she walked this earth in her frail tiny body CLOAKED IN THE COMPASSION OF JESUS CHRIST! Thanks for sharing this Sandy! WOW… I just read those words again… OUTSTANDING! =)

  4. WOW Piglet!! I am going send "DR" the link again today. He will be so proud! LOL. No, really I am so happy to hear you giggle and get it even if it does mean carrying a rock around in your pocketbook for a week!
    Love ya!!

  5. I have read over this blog several times. I wonder how many times we've been jerky people in someone's life and we thought we were calm, cool, and collective.