Give Yourself a Break, Before You Have a Breakdown!

Happy Tuesday!

Yesterday, I dropped my wife Emily off at work and then realized I forgot my keys to the office. So I headed for Starbucks to write my blog. Before I made it there, Emily called my cell phone as hyper as she’s been in a very long time… said she had the day off. So I picked her back up and we went to Harrisonburg for a day of absolute randomness!

We ate breakfast at IHOP. We both ordered the banana bread french toast and eggs combo. She ordered bacon, I ordered sausage links… and we split the meats.

From IHOP, we went to a place called Finders-Keepers and walked around with our jaws dropped for about an hour. A friend of ours (Lacey Hewitt) told us about this store. Finders-Keepers was everything she said it was. Hugely discounted (75-90% off) top of the line clothing, electronics, and everything else. We didn’t buy too much… just a few $5 shirts (regularly $50), 6 very nice $1 spoons (regularly $5 each), and a few other fun items.

From Finders-Keepers, we went to Greenberry’s, a really fun Coffee and Tea shop. I ordered an exotic tea and emily went with a simple english black tea. While we were drinking our tea and sitting on two very comfortable chairs, Emily commented about a tea cup they had for sale. Her comment made me think, “He, let’s go make our own tea cups at You Made It!” So we did… and almost FIVE HOURS LATER, we left the store with a whole lot of excitement!

We asked for two pieces of paper and two pencils and we drafted our concepts first. Then, picked out our paints and a work station, and we went to work.

What’s really fun about our tea cups is the way they represent our individual uniqueness. My cup is modern and meticulous… every dot placed in a carefully calculated order. Emily’s cup is random and happy! Where I perfectly steadied my hands for every brush stroke, Emily splashed her brush into the paint and hurled it to her cup with a hyper, happy smile all over her face! She looked like a little kid at arts and crafts. For me, watching Emily smile like that for so many hours was far more fun than actually making the cups. She is the funnest, happiest person in this universe!

Here are a few (pre-firing) photo’s of our amazing tea cups. The colors will significantly brighten in the kiln. They will shine when they are glazed! My phone died before I could take a final photo of Emily cup. I can’t wait to see the finished product. Don’t worry, I’ll post a few updated photo’s after we pick them up next week.

My cup:

Emily’s cup:

After we made our tea cups and sent them to the kiln for firing, we went to Mr. J’s Bagels for a late afternoon snack. I ordered my favorite food, an everything bagel with cream cheese and butter. Emily had a cinnamon and raisin bagel with light cream cheese. We purchased six bagels and a cream cheese container for our kids… and we went home, reminiscing over the perfectness of our day, for the entire 30 mile trip!

Invest in Your Key Relationships

Life is so much fun when we share it with other people. Today’s blog is not about gloating with my “perfect” marriage. It’s about inspiring better marriages, and other key relationships.

Sad to say, yesterday was the first time Emily and I have done anything like that in a way too long. Life has been far too complicated for us lately. We’ve been working, it seems for years, 16 hours a day, 7 days a week. Even though our work is mostly MINISTRY, it is still very important for us to have a romantic Monday every now and then.

Balance Your Work and Play

Some people need to learn how to work. They need to develop a work ethic. They need to get off the couch and do something with their lives. Others, work too much and play too little. They need to be told, “Hey! Take some time to smell the roses! Give yourself a break, before you have a breakdown!”

When we work hard, we can play hard… guilt free! And we should. So far, I have done a fairly good job at balancing my work and play. Sometimes, I fly out of balance… always in the far extreme of workaholism. Then, a moment arises like what happened with Emily’s work yesterday morning… and something hits me like, “Hey Chuck, your work can wait for just one day. The world will survive one day without a blog from you. This moment is a gift from heaven… so take it.”

I believe that God wants us to enjoy the key people in our lives. Our personal effectiveness thrives when we balance our work and play. There is nothing like the synergy created when two people spend the day laughing and loving!!

Break The Tension

So, stop feeling guilty for having fun! And stop using the excuse, “I have no money.” Fun isn’t always expensive. Fun can be had on any budget! Be creative. Be passionate. Be playful. Hurry up-break the tension!

I just finished praying for you (with tremendous passion), hoping you really feel the difference. Please leave your comments here on this blog site so that we will always have a record of your beautiful additions.

Have a beautiful Tuesday everyone! Do something FUN, it’s still the Christmas holiday season, remember?

With much love…

Dream Big, Live Bold, and Make the Difference!


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12 thoughts on “Give Yourself a Break, Before You Have a Breakdown!

  1. It looks like you all had a lot of fun!! You all deserved it!

    This blog spoke directly to me today. Being a wife, mother, having 3 jobs, a girl scout leader, a Sunday school teacher and of course all my house work… there are times that I forget that I need to have fun! I thank God that He gave me my amazing husband Jeremy and children to remind me to have fun! They after God of course are the light in my life!

    There are times that I look at my schedule and could just cry because it makes me tired just to think about it! lol Then I remember that I know God has me where He wants me right now, so I take a breath and jump in! Then comes the hard part…. remembering that I can have fun without the guilt!

    This Christmas has been such a blessing to me. I was able to take that time to remember that I do work hard so I can play hard! Thank God and my parents for instilling my work ethic in me so that I know how to work hard, as many in my generation do not have that down yet.

    Thank you for another encouraging blog!! I have always been a kid at heart and this has reminded me that that it is ok and that is exactly what God wants me to be! 🙂 Have a blessed week everyone!! 🙂 <3

    • Awesome Elaine! Wow, I am SUCH a fan of pretty much everything you ever say! Thank you for teaching me so much about life and ministry. I'm praying for you guys right now… in the middle of Starbucks… (on top of a table and as loud as I can pray-lol just kidding!) Really, I am praying for you from this semi-comfy corner chair.

  2. I agree with Elaine, you both deserve it. I remember when the title of this blog was a sermon you preached a few years ago.

    It helped me give myself permission to have fun and relax and today I needed to hear it again. After church and lunch on Sunday I took a lil nap. It was the first one in years, I remember telling someone at Betty's that evening, I felt guilty, like it was lazy or a weakness, which isn't the case really 🙂

    One of the things that I respect, is that you take time to relax with your family. Yesterday sounds like a perfect date, no deadlines is a good thing. That is SOOOO important! Being worn out means the body (yours and the body of Christ too) doesn't get as much from you.

    I betcha balancing work and play is better than that old apple a day 🙂

    Luv ya'll,



    • Jay, send me a picture! Really, what made you decide to read my blog? I just checked out yours and LOVED it! Way to go on your life and ministry… you're making such a huge difference it seems to me. Let's stay connected for some greater future purpose! God bless you, my newest friend! 🙂

  4. Thanks for sharing your and Em's day. What joy it brought to me to hear of you 2 enjoying yourselves together.

    Maybe Randy and I will take a ride to Harrisonburg and check things out there. IHOP especially LOL.