I’m sure you’ve heard that phrase, “Oh boy, you just put your foot in your mouth with that statement!” Do you ever have one of those days when you feel like every time you open your mouth, you’re swallowing your foot? Yesterday was one of those days for me. I don’t know what happened, but I had at least 20 moments when I thought to myself, “Chuck, why did you just say that?”
The Bible says, “A tree is identified by its fruit. Figs are never gathered from thorn-bushes, and grapes are not picked from bramble bushes. A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.” (Luke 6:44-45 NLT)
Whether I like to admit it or not, oftentimes my mouth locates the condition of my heart.
When I am happy inside and my heart is at rest, then my mouth transmits happy and joyful messages. When I am humble and compassionate, my mouth blesses the people around me.
On the contrary, when my heart is stressed, overworked, overwhelmed, fearful, and anxious… people can know this quickly as they watch my face and listen to my words.
Transparency vs. Hypocrisy
Of course, many people in today’s world have trained themselves to speak words that are opposite from their inner thoughts and feelings. Instead of dealing with the deep rooted causes behind their outlandish remarks, they learn how to become two different people.
According to an article at Wikipedia, “Hypocrisy is the state of pretending to have beliefs, opinions, virtues, feeling, qualities, or standards that one does not actually have.”
We have become a society of masked people. Instead of working hard at becoming better people, we work hard at looking like better people. WOW!
It’s humiliating to me when my suffering heart sends regretful messages to my mouth. Definitely, I try to talk less when I am under pressure. Yet, no matter how hard I try to hide my inner thoughts and feelings, I always end up showing the world the raw and unedited version of myself. If I need to make adjustments to my heart, then everyone else will know it just as fast as I will.
When I make adjustments to my life, I want to improve the person that I am instead of the person that I portray.
There is a Reason Behind Our Words and Actions
This past week should have been one of the greatest weeks of my life. Anyone would assume that I would be on the highest mountain emotionally, because of the hight level of success I’m stepping into. I spent the entire week on the phone with some of todays foremost Christian leaders. Undoubtedly, I’m on the brink of crossing a huge threshold into something dreamy! Yet, despite it all, I feel anxious, fearful, overwhelmed, overworked, and stressed. Not every second, but every few days, sometimes every few hours… it’s like riding a terrible roller coaster.
For so long, I’ve been so grossly under resourced. This recent success has come with a price so high, few people would comprehend it even if I were capable of putting it into words. I’ve hung on a thousand crosses. I have to admit how exhausted I feel from the struggle. I’m still healing from a few very deep battle wounds. I’m definitely stronger than I give myself credit for, but sometimes I feel far too fragile to be moving into my destiny right now.
God has assured me that a new grace is coming into my life for what’s ahead. So far, I’ve felt a few small hints of this grace, but that’s all. I’m in a womb and I’m heading for the birth canal… and sometimes it absolutely freaks me out of my mind. There is a huge part of me that wants to burn my book and downplay my “gift”… and step out of the light, permanently. I don’t want to risk losing my friends. I don’t want to drink the cups of betrayal I may be given on this path. Everybody roots for the underdog. People like to encourage the person who struggles. They seek to kill the one who succeeds the most. I must admit how safe I have felt as the underdog. How will it be in this next season of my life? Will I have support, or will I suffer from jealousy and misunderstanding?
These are some of the thoughts I am processing in prayer right now. My heart is in transition. I’m going to God for my answers. My sail is up and I am waiting on the wind. I’m confident, that the new grace will rise, and I will not have to take another step without God’s strong hand. It’s gonna be ok for me. If God want’s me to change the world, then He will raise me up for however long He sees fit. I will shine while it is my time to shine and then I will join my ancestors with no regrets.
Give Mercy & Support-Get Mercy & Support
My reason for sharing these thoughts with the world is to explain why sometimes, I swallow my foot. If I ever seem distracted, if I seem to be self focused and obnoxious, or prideful and uncaring… please pray for me and keep on believing in God’s best for my life.
If we are going to build tomorrows better world, then we have to become far more supportive. We have to demonstrate mercy on a much higher level. The next time someone in our circle acts out of character, let us consider the vastness of their visible and invisible challenges.
To my friends, I say to you this morning: Go ahead and swallow your foot every now and then. It’s ok, we all do it. I’ll try not to lecture while you’re fighting your way through to a new victory. When I see you struggle, I’ll try to cheer loudly at your strengths and draw the attention away from your flaws. Just don’t waste the opportunity of such moments. Leverage your humiliation for a necessary transformation. God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Hold on just a little bit longer and the new grace you need will suddenly appear!
Wow, this is a deep message. Probably deeper than it will seem at a first pass. Consider reading this blog several times throughout the day.
Here’s a great song for this moment. Hillsong, From the Inside Out.
Just like every morning, I just finished praying for you very passionately. I sincerely hope you feel the difference all day long.
With much love…
Dream Big, Live Bold, and Make the Difference!