Apologize to Someone, With No Strings Attached.

Happy Thursday!

Early this morning, I wrote a very humble 2nd letter of apology to my publisher for my overreaction from last week. If you were following that story, I’m referencing my response to their first edit-received on February 2. Whereas my initial response to them was professional and respectful, it was premature and mostly unsubstantiated. I was acting from a lack of experience and a fear of the unknown.

After I sent that letter of apology, I posted the following tweet:

“Apologize to someone, with no strings attached. Think real hard, who’s life can be changed today with your humility?”

Saying, “I’m sorry” is very difficult for some people because it requires a huge degree of humility.

Most apologies these days are not really apologies.

For example: When you apologize for your wrongful action and in the same conversation, you bring up the other persons wrongful actions toward you… not cool.

For example: When you give one sentence of apology and five paragraphs of blame… not cool.

For an apology to be golden, it has to be offered without conditions and without blame.

If you want to become more authentically apologetic about your wrongful actions, do the following things:

  1. Seek to better experience God’s love for you.
  2. Expand your concept of God.
  3. Believe that God cares about your future more than you do.
  4. Trust that God is bigger than the actions and reactions of other people.
  5. Overcome your fear of people and circumstances.
  6. Stop defending your reputation with fictional depiction’s of your history.
  7. Focus on God’s approval vs. your image.
  8. Develop a pleasure for merited and unmerited humiliation.
  9. Meditate about Jesus, who offered himself as a sacrifice, for the very people who sacrificed Him.
  10. Pray for the grace of humility.

Would you like to act on this teaching? Go ahead. I’m positive there is someone out there in this big world you have wronged in recent years. I don’t want to make this complicated and I’m not asking you to act beyond the GRACE you have. What I mean is that true humility takes time to develop. You’re not going to be an expert just because you read through the Bible one time. Just pray about it and start out with something simple, take a baby step!

Humility is easier with experience. The more you feel it and act with it, the more you will appreciate its value… and the more it will flow through your life.

“With humility comes wisdom” (Proverbs 11:2 NIV)

Humility comes before honor. (Proverbs 18:12 NIV)

Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life.” (Proverbs 22:4 NIV)

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3 NIV)

I hope that today’s message makes a huge difference in your life. To fully appreciate its potential, you must act. Please leave your comments and experiences!

Here’s a great song about God’s grace. C3 Worship, Grace Holds On.

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=20veEkuNeVQ

Just like every morning, I prayed for you with tremendous passion. I sincerely hope you feel the difference all day long.

Have a great day everyone!

With much love…

Dream Big, Live Bold, and Make the Difference!

Chuck

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8 thoughts on “Apologize to Someone, With No Strings Attached.

  1. THERE IS NO GREATER RELEASE IN LIFE THAN TO OFFER TRUE FORGIVNESS TO A HUMAN BEING !!!! WE MUST REALIZE THAT WE DO NOT FIGHT AGAINST FLESH AND BLOOD !!! PEOPLE ARE NOT OUR ADVERSARIES I MEAN WE ARE ALL MADE IN GODS IMAGE SO WE MUST NOT PUT BLAME ON OR DECHARACTERIZE ONE OF GODS PRIZED POSESSIONS HE HAS FORMED!! AFTER ALL WE ARE MADE IN HIS IMAGE BY HIM SO WE MUST REALIZE THAT WHATS MADE BY GOD HIMSELF WE ARE REQUIRED TO OVERLOOK WHAT WE SEE AS FAULTS IN A PERSON !! GOD IS MATURING EACH PERSON AS THEY GROW WITH HIM SO HOW CAN WE BE DISSATISFIED WITH A HUMAN THAT IS BEING TRANSFORMED BY THE HAND OF GOD !! DO WE NEED TO HOLD GRUDGES AND ANGER TOWARDS A WORK OF GOD HIMSELF!AND IF THEY ARENT SAVED ALL THE MORE REASON TO OVERLOOK THERE FAULTS AND ACCEPT INJUSTICES AS STEPPING STONES TO LEAD THEM TO CHRIST AS WE SHOW THEM LOVE INSTEAD OF ANGER !!!! AFTER ALL DOSENT THE WORD SAY THAT GOD IS LOVE AND IF SO ARENT WE TO ACT AS JESUS DID !!!!HE NEVER OPENED HIS MOUTH OR DENOUNCED ANYONE OF HIS ACUSERS AS HE WAS BEING CRUCIFIED ON THE CROSS!!! HE SAID FATHER FORGIVE THEM AS THE PROCESS WAS TAKING PLACE SO LETS SEE IF WE CAN GO ALL THE WAY BACK TO THE CROSS WHERE IT ALL BEGAN FOR US AND ACT AS CHRIST DID AS HE WAS BEING CRUCIFIED HE ASK FORGIVNESS OVER HIS ADVESERIES RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF IT !!! CAN WE LOOK TO THE CROSS AND PICK UP THE DEFINITION OF TRUE HUMILITY AND FORGIVENESS TODAY !! IT IS BEYOND EXPLANATION WHAT FORGIVENESS CAN DO TO THE SPIRIT AS WE SURRENDER OURSELVES AS CHRIST DID !!!!!!! GO AHEAD AND FORGIVE ALL THAT HAVE CROSSED YOU AND WATCH THE WONDERFUL FREEDOM THAT FOLLOWS AFTERWARDS !!!!ITS A GREAT FEELING OF PEACE THAT NO WORDS CAN EXPLAIN AND IT OPENS YOU UP TO BE ABLE TO FULLY RECEIVE FROM YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER !!!!!

    THANKS

    DOUG BROOKS SR.

  2. I don't attach strings to forgives, I attach nails! 3 of them to be exact! (Get it?)

    Since taking the Honor's Reward class and being only 3 lessons in, I have had to go to several people and apologize. It is an amazing thing to "realize" you have dis-honored someone, or "dissed" someone, and then be able to go with a humble heart and ask for forgiveness.

  3. Like Brandy, I am learning this whole thing in a new way. Before the Honors Reward class humbling myself to confront offense, (either to me or from me) I would do it with a clenched fist or gritting my teeth. Now I am praying for the ones I don't always see eye to eye with. I am excited about the results I am getting. My heart is changing towards them. Praying takes the power struggle out of the whole picture. The things that bothered me so much don't control my reaction to them. I'm not consumed by the negative emotion whenever I face them.

    The Bait of Satan and Honor's Reward are two books that will be a serious benefit to anyone who needs character improvement.

    Mel