Early this morning, I wrote a very humble 2nd letter of apology to my publisher for my overreaction from last week. If you were following that story, I’m referencing my response to their first edit-received on February 2. Whereas my initial response to them was professional and respectful, it was premature and mostly unsubstantiated. I was acting from a lack of experience and a fear of the unknown.
After I sent that letter of apology, I posted the following tweet:
“Apologize to someone, with no strings attached. Think real hard, who’s life can be changed today with your humility?”
Saying, “I’m sorry” is very difficult for some people because it requires a huge degree of humility.
Most apologies these days are not really apologies.
For example: When you apologize for your wrongful action and in the same conversation, you bring up the other persons wrongful actions toward you… not cool.
For example: When you give one sentence of apology and five paragraphs of blame… not cool.
For an apology to be golden, it has to be offered without conditions and without blame.
If you want to become more authentically apologetic about your wrongful actions, do the following things:
- Seek to better experience God’s love for you.
- Expand your concept of God.
- Believe that God cares about your future more than you do.
- Trust that God is bigger than the actions and reactions of other people.
- Overcome your fear of people and circumstances.
- Stop defending your reputation with fictional depiction’s of your history.
- Focus on God’s approval vs. your image.
- Develop a pleasure for merited and unmerited humiliation.
- Meditate about Jesus, who offered himself as a sacrifice, for the very people who sacrificed Him.
- Pray for the grace of humility.
Would you like to act on this teaching? Go ahead. I’m positive there is someone out there in this big world you have wronged in recent years. I don’t want to make this complicated and I’m not asking you to act beyond the GRACE you have. What I mean is that true humility takes time to develop. You’re not going to be an expert just because you read through the Bible one time. Just pray about it and start out with something simple, take a baby step!
Humility is easier with experience. The more you feel it and act with it, the more you will appreciate its value… and the more it will flow through your life.
“With humility comes wisdom” (Proverbs 11:2 NIV)
“Humility comes before honor. (Proverbs 18:12 NIV)
“Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life.” (Proverbs 22:4 NIV)
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3 NIV)
I hope that today’s message makes a huge difference in your life. To fully appreciate its potential, you must act. Please leave your comments and experiences!
Here’s a great song about God’s grace. C3 Worship, Grace Holds On.
Just like every morning, I prayed for you with tremendous passion. I sincerely hope you feel the difference all day long.
Have a great day everyone!
With much love…
Dream Big, Live Bold, and Make the Difference!