It’s 11:30am… I’m in my office listening to Jake Condra’s voice notes for his upcoming Wednesday night sermon at Destiny Family Center. It’s such a powerful message… infused with heart and hope from beginning to end! God is all over it! I can’t wait to hear this message LIVE in front of our congregation on June 22nd.
When Jake was leaving my office yesterday, he turned and said, “I want you to know how much I appreciate your mentorship in my life. Growing up pretty much without a father was tough for me… and I consider you my spiritual father. I never want to take that for granted, because you’ve made a huge difference in my life. I want to become just like you.”
Then today, I received a call from Joel Gunn and just before the call ended Joel said, “I just want you to know how much I respect you as a man of God. You’ve been such a good friend to me, really one of the greatest friends of my whole life. I can’t describe to you how much better I am because of you. I’ve just been thinking that I don’t want to miss your mentorship by treating you like my pal. I want to honor you as my mentor so that God can give me everything He has for me through you Pastor Chuck.”
I’m touched by these two conversations… moved to tears.
Because this is the highest honor, and the truest meaning of LIFE for a leader!
Ordinary is the Destroyer of Impartation
Since I’ve never been authoritative in my leadership, people usually stumble at my kindness. I’m far too personable and far too accessible, so I become ORDINARY real fast with most people. “Ordinary” is the destroyer of impartation.
Expectation Regulates Impartation
Unless you expect to learn something from someone, you usually wont. The higher you esteem a person, the more influence they will have on you. Raise your expectations and you open the flow of impartation… from your mentor. Lower your expectations and you will close the flow.
Honor is a Choice
Oftentimes, familiarity breeds contempt. When that which is precious becomes ordinary, it is replaceable. As you get to know people, you see their flaws… and if you are looking for flaws, you will find many of them.
Everyone has flaws. You must be very careful not to lower your expectations when you notice a flaw. Honor is a choice!
Honor Your Mentors
Since most great mentors wont demand submission from their apprentices, it is the apprentice’s responsibility to honor the mentor… from introduction, to familiarity, and beyond!
People come and people go. I always do my very best to accelerate the destiny of everyone I meet. Over time, there have been a few people who have REALLY recognized the blessing that is on my life… even more than I have recognized it myself. These people will be glad they did!
Because they are accelerating their destiny by honoring me as their mentor. Their ultra high expectations are opening the gate of impartation from me to them.
Impartation: to transmit, or bestow a quality on.
Impartation is best illustrated in the exchanges between Moses and Joshua, Elijah and Elisha, and Paul and Timothy.
The heart, character, and skill of a person CAN be CAUGHT by another. Recognizing the gift that is on a person raises expectations, generates honor… and opens the flow!
Honoring My Own Mentors
Thanks to Jake and Joel, I am thinking about better ways to honor my own mentors. Even though a few of mine have invited me into their friendship circles, I never want to treat as common, that which is precious to me… and thus forfeit my opportunity to learn from them.
Some people don’t understand this, and some people will argue with me that there is nothing wrong with getting too close with a mentor. I’m not teaching against closeness. I’m just saying that ORDINARY IS THE DESTROYER OF IMPARTATION… so be careful.
Let’s think of way that we can better honor our mentors: Pastors, Coaches, Bosses, Parents, and other Leaders over us. Have you become overly familiar with a mentor… so much that you’re lowering the person who is OVER YOU to RAISE YOU UP? Be radical about this. Make the choice to honor your mentors on a much higher level. Open the flow of impartation today.
Photo taken from: The Bridge Church
That’s all I have time to say this afternoon… I’m praying for your success!
With much love…
Dream Big, Live Bold, and Make A Difference!