Mentorship Happens By Accident, But Its Far More Effective When It’s Done On Purpose!

Happy Tuesday!

It’s 7am, I’m sitting in a starbucks at the moment, working on an outline for my second book, listening to elevation worship on youtube… I can feel God wrapping His arms around me in a very special way this morning. It’s really wild, like an outer body experience.

This room has switched into slow motion, and the sound has been muted… and I can see and hear every action, in comprehensive detail, from several angles.

A lady is eating her pastry and sipping coffee to my right, while her two adolescent girls seem thrilled to be drinking their kid sized tea’s.

There is an older fellow sitting straight across from me, reading the paper, but he seems to be in deep thought about something else.

To my far right, a 40 something male is reading his book.

Just walking in, a middle aged couple… he has an orange bow tie, she is wearing a red and white striped shirt.

She compliments him, “You look very handsome today.” He reciprocates with a smile and a softspoken, “Thank you.”

Behind the counter everyone is focused on the orders they’re processing, but chatting and laughing together about everything under the sun.

Speaking if the sun, it’s starting to shine through the window behind me. A lady just leaned over my right shoulder to adjust the blinds…

I’m praying for these people, that God will use my smile to bless them… that God will inspire others also, to show them His love today. I’m praying for their health, and for their relationships. Especially for those who are facing unbearable circumstances… that they will feel a new sense of hope, the warmth of God’s grace, just like the warmth of the sun on this Starbucks window.

[One Hour Later]

Well, my phone rang, so I answered it… and I just finished with the most electrifying life coaching call of my past few years.

It’s been a very long time since I felt like my strategic questions and suggestions were going to CHANGE EVERYTHING on that level, for a highly capable individual like that young man. I’m in tears about this, in the middle of this Starbucks, with people looking at my face and wondering why?

So many times, I’ve invested my whole heart, and everything I have… to help a young Joshua RISE to the heights, and fly with the eagles. I’ve been very careful not to take ownership of these apprentices. I’ve encouraged them with my words, served them with my selfless actions, and inspired them with a life well lived. I’ve modeled what it is to be a good husband, father, friend, and follower of Christ. But, inevitably, it happens to the greatest mentors… loyalty is broken by [seemingly] more attractive options… the apprentice finds a way to disqualify the mentor… and the apprentice moves on.

This is the reason behind my tears. Mentorship is happening again, but this time there are more apprentices than ever before. Here is the text conversation I had with the young man from this morning, following our historical phone call:

Me: That call was electrifying!! Thanks for giving my life so much meaning. I just prayed for you. Have a beautiful day. Succeed above your peers at everything you do. God is with you.

Young Man: DUDE!!! Thank you so much! I am so stinking excited right now! I can’t wait to get home and talk to my wife tonight.

Me: I get tears in my eyes when I think about how happy I am to have you guys in my life. I’ve been let down by so many hopefuls over the past ten years. You show so much promise. You were born to change the world… and I pray that God will always give me the privilege of covering you, protecting you, encouraging you, and helping you to succeed on the highest possible level. I never want to own you, just bless you, and live with the satisfaction of knowing I had a small part in helping you RISE!

Young Man: I feel like other than my mom while I was growing up, you are the first person to do that for me. From the bottom of my heart thank you .

Can you see why I’m so moved at the moment?

Be inspired to pay better attention to the mentors and apprentices in your own life from now. Is there a person who is laying down his or her life to help you rise? Is there a young apprentice, who is hoping you will recognize his or her potential, and give your whole heart and everything you have to help them fly like an eagle?

Mentorship happens by accident, but its far more effective when it’s done on purpose!

Today’s footprint’s image from Tumbr.

I just prayed for you, that God will bless your relationships with others… that He will produce an abundance of fruit in you and through you this year. Synergy is a powerful force. With the right people in our lives, we can go innately faster and farther than we can alone.

I thank God for you.

With much love,


Ps: Today’s message corresponds perfectly with chapter 14 of my book, Make Me A Legend. Check it out!

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2 thoughts on “Mentorship Happens By Accident, But Its Far More Effective When It’s Done On Purpose!

  1. Awww this is a happy warmhearted sunny spring day blog! It reminds me, Sunday during the service, when we were watching the dc outreach video from a while back I saw some faces that slipped away. Praying they come back and continue to be mentored.

  2. Good morning Chuck,
    I enjoy reading your posts, I don’t get to read them all, but I do try to read them. Your comment about mentors is one that I identify with. Being in ministry for 6 years, I have always tried to listen to pastors who have been around a little longer than I have. I don’t proclaim to have all the answers, no do I think any of us do. However, In having a relationship with Jesus, we know He does.
    I like how you notice the people around you, I try to do that as well, and whisper a prayer in my heart for them. We need to take our eyes off ourselves at times to be aware of what is gong on around us. If we don’t, we may miss a opportunity God has provided to share the story. Working in the school system I have learned that good communication skills does not always refer to out words. In that environmental I could not talk about my faith without getting in trouble with the school system. I pray about how to share my faith with the students, God taught me that my actions speak louder than my words. A smile, or a pleasant good morning, and treating others with respect speaks volumes. After a while all the students knew who I was, At graduation last year I was parking cars, students walked by waving and speaking to me, many I did not know by name. They knew me by the the way I presented myself at the school. People are watching.
    I read Romans 14 today and I will post part of that chapter, speaking about how our actions can affect others.

    Romans 14:14 I know and am convinced on the authority of the Lord Jesus that no food, in and of itself, is wrong to eat. But if someone believes it is wrong, then for that person it is wrong. 15 And if another believer is distressed by what you eat, you are not acting in love if you eat it. Don’t let your eating ruin someone for whom Christ died. 16 Then you will not be criticized for doing something you believe is good. 17 For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of what we eat or drink, but of living a life of goodness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. 18 If you serve Christ with this attitude, you will please God, and others will approve of you, too. 19 So then, let us aim for harmony in the church and try to build each other up.

    20 Don’t tear apart the work of God over what you eat. Remember, all foods are acceptable, but it is wrong to eat something if it makes another person stumble. 21 It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or do anything else if it might cause another believer to stumble. 22 You may believe there’s nothing wrong with what you are doing, but keep it between yourself and God. Blessed are those who don’t feel guilty for doing something they have decided is right. 23 But if you have doubts about whether or not you should eat something, you are sinning if you go ahead and do it. For you are not following your convictions. If you do anything you believe is not right, you are sinning.