The Differences Between Successful & Unsuccessful People

Stop Saying I Wish

It’s always blown my mind to see two perfectly similar people in appearance, upbringing, and education grow and become two totally different human beings.

Have you ever wondered how one person becomes so highly successful, and then another person who is just like him or her (in almost every way) becomes so woefully unhappy and unsuccessful?

To me, high success is not defined as having lots of money and things, or attaining to certain levels of achievement.

The differences between successful and unsuccessful people are beneath the skin. You’re not going for a certain new look, but a certain new mindset. You don’t need a new outfit. You need a new attitude.

Successful People…

Love themselves and their family and friends. They are thankful for the past, content with the present, and optimistic about the future.

Unsuccessful People…

They are the sleepwalkers. They are bitter about the past, angry and hurt in a hundred ways. They groan and grumble about the nightmares of today. They are consumed with the dread of a hopeless tomorrow.

If you are woefully unhappy and unsuccessful, you can switch tracks.

You just have to understand these major differences between successful and unsuccessful people, and then choose a more successful way of thinking (and acting) for yourself.

Stop repeating the same excuses! Everyone has a terrible past. Everyone has challenges. Everyone has a few good reasons to be unsuccessful.

I don’t believe in the power of good luck and bad luck, because I believe more in the power of right and wrong attitudes, negative and positive expectations, and positive action (or the lack of it)!


How do you generally feel about yourself, your life, and the world around you?

  • Are you self-loathing, guilt ridden, enraged, embittered, etc. (OR)
  • Are you grateful, loving, graceful, playful, hilarious, energized, etc.
  • Stop being such a downer! Open the window blinds and let the sunlight in! Clean up your spaces from the devastating effects of your last pity party.
  • Smile with difficulty until you can smile by default!


What are you expecting to happen with your life?

  • Do you feel like the whole world is conspiring against you, that life is always going to be an impossible uphill struggle? (OR)
  • Do you feel like the whole world is conspiring in your favor! Do you expect the mountains to move? Do you expect people to like you, love you, and bless you?

Positive Action

How are manifesting energy, taking action, and moving towards your dreams?

  • You have to be more than a dreamer to win!
  • Unsuccessful people are lazy. They wake up late and they do whatever, whenever, wherever… most of the time.
  • Unsuccessful people spend lots of time wishing for a better life, but they do little or nothing (consistently) to drive them forward.
  • If you want to go from woefully unsuccessful to highly successful, you must turn your wishes into strategic plans, and actually go for it!
  • The world behaves differently when you TAKE ACTION!

Consider these verses from the Bible…

Attitude: “Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” (Philippians 4:8 NLT)

Expectations: “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11 NLT) “Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.” (Ephesians 3:30 NLT)

Positive Action: “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your strength.” (Ecclesiastes 9:10 NLV)

Create a new attitude!

Develop a long new list of expectations!

Enter into the power of positive action!

When you do these things, the entire universe will welcome you to the UPWARD FLOW.

Sure, you will have challenges and opposition. But with the right attitude and expectations, and with positive action you will keep blasting forward without losing momentum! You will win. Because it’s impossible to stay at the bottom when you give attention to the things I’ve written in this blog today.

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Dream Big,

Chuck Balsamo

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20 thoughts on “The Differences Between Successful & Unsuccessful People

  1. Excellent! I would like to share that with my Work Readinesss class at Woodrow Wilson Rehab. Center, where I teach adults with disabilities.

  2. Wow! just had a thought about the word ‘success’ these few days and reading your post is absolutely what i needed! Amazingly its not just answer my one thought about the ‘success’ thing, but also the other great parts (some toppings added *smile*): ‘expectation’ and ‘attitude’ and the ‘actions’ – What an amazing revelation; surely He gives more than what i asked for and think of and needed. AND everybody need to know this. Thank youuu ..

    • Esslythe, it’s so nice to hear from you today. How are you and Brian and the kids these days? How is your church? I still want to come there to Indonesia and do ministry. May God make it happen when the time is right!

      • Pastor, we’re GREAT! So many things happening down here – yes you should come! Please come, we have the best church hospitality for you. 🙂 Kids are growing up; and we’re too. We’ve been praying for a new church building for us since we’re growing and we’ve been struggling with the permission *almost always* for the church building. But we keep pressing on, we believe this going to be a life changing year for us. Praying for you and looking forward for meeting you. either you come, or i’ll come. Send my warmest hi for the family and church there.

        • Esslythe, I am always praying for you, your family, and your church. God willing, I will come to Indonesia to preach… maybe later this year. Let’s pray about it and see if some big doors open up!

  3. I like the new look of your blog. I was reading last night about success and how different one’s worldview can help a person decide what success means. Thank goodness God outlines and teaches us success in the Bible. You’ve done a splendid job explaining the Christian worldview of success. This evening I pray for all who suffer from a negative attitude that is blocking their path to true Christian success.

  4. Great information Chuck… postive smiling people are contagious ! I plan to share with our TEAM. Here — we are all about “CAN DO” and smiles and happy people. I love this attitude.
    Thank you for sharing….

    • Dawn, I love your business philosophy! Sounds like you have dream team there at Marriott. Tell me more about your team. How many? What is your role? What is your big aim for 2013?

  5. In just a few words you have marked the difference between successful and unsuccessful people. I reached your blog while searching for “why i am unsuccessful”. I found that I have all the qualities of an unsuccessful person as you have mentioned here. But its very difficult to change your attitude. I am very sad and have very few friends(or the people with whom I can talk to).

    And the biggest problem with me is that I don’t even know what I want. I have no dreams. If i like something, my mind says no go for other one and if I start planning out with other thing , my mind says go for the previous one. And since time doesn’t wait for anyone I am stuck in dilemma over what to do for past many years. And now I have wasted a lot of time in that,I have started repenting over my wasted time. Now I have only one thought “I could do that and could be very happy”. Is there any solution for that? I am 24 years old guy.

  6. This was totally inspiring…especially the last line that u wrote….I was actually feeling like a loser before reading this as I was a failure thruout my life, but after reading ur verse I feel like a champion now…Thanks 4 dis motivation mate…